Chris Rush: Memory, Childhood and Mad Love
Chris Rush is an artist and designer, and author of The Light Years (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, $27; reviewed below), a candid and funny memoir of a remarkable childhood. At 13, Rush left behind his family in New Jersey to join his older sister in the Southwest. There, he dealt drugs, did drugs, explored the wilderness and became part of the counterculture, in spite of his tender age.
Why did you decide to write a memoir about this period of your life now?
I did not, over the course of my life, think very much about the events that are described in the book. I found art, I found love, I found a life. In my 40s, I started to travel, and I kept a travel journal. The further I got from home, the more I could remember it. I started to put things in my journal that amazed me, that I hadn't thought about in years. On a long train ride through central India with a friend, I started to tell him these stories. The more I talked, the bigger his eyes got. He said to me, "Chris, your life is so strange! Keep writing."
I decided to try to write these stories into some cogent fashion. When I began, I thought it was going to be a rowdy road trip of a book. As time went on, it got deeper and deeper--and weirder and weirder--and more intense. I worked for 10 years on the book, and I knew I had something I'd never read before.
You describe the details and feelings of being a child perfectly. How did you remember so much?
For the first two or three years, the only thing I did was write down everything I could remember. And I realized that I remembered far more than I had ever called upon, that memory is very holographic, and once you walk in one door, there's another door up ahead. I just kept walking through all these rooms and memories and reliving them.
After I had written down everything I could remember, I tested my recollections against my brothers, sisters and mother. They all gave me extensive interviews, particularly my mother. She is a very healthy 92-year-old woman who remembers everything perfectly; it's uncanny. The Light Years would not be the book it is without those interviews. We all agreed this was a crazy and wonderful time that will never happen again.
Throughout the process, I wanted to see if I could find the child's mind and the child's voice. It was the only way to make sense out of what we did and who we were. I crawled deep, deep down into my mind to recall what I was thinking and feeling. I tried to touch on the mad joy of childhood. It was a wonderful, wonderful experience.
As an adult looking back, do you resent your mother for not protecting you?
The main discovery of the book for me was to understand that my mother probably loved my father more than she loved her children. As a child, I was the audience. My parents had an epic and dangerous love affair, full of jealousy and betrayal and endless arguments. As I've gotten older, I've realized, who hasn't dreamt of dangerous love? And though I did suffer in some ways, I have immense respect for love and romance.
My parents are that peculiar Great Depression-World War II generation who could never speak about love or pain. So I still have to use a great deal of deduction to understand their mad love, but I am a believer in mad love. I've made peace with whatever kind of confusion and neglect I experienced as a child. As I said to my mom, because she wept after reading the book, "You couldn't have saved me. I had to save myself." My mother is my oldest friend; I've known her for over 60 years. We have a long and complicated relationship, and this book is just a part of it. Yes, my mother was less than perfect, but she was at least fierce. I can look back on it and say, "My mother risked all for love," and that's kind of great.
Baking pies was a part of your recovery. Do you still bake pies?
I do! There is nothing like an apple pie in the fall. I've tried every weird version of what a pie should be, but when you get down to it, a golden apple pie coming out of the oven is the reason we live. When I started making pies at the end of the memoir, that was the beginning of finding my next life. It's when the joy came back. And there's nothing better than sharing a piece of pie! --Suzan L. Jackson, freelance writer and author of Book By Book blog